Monday, September 01, 2008

Addiction or lack of awakening ??

Between the "reality" programmes that crowd the tv dail, and the steady diet of what amounts to tripe (in it's fullest sense) I've long ago given up on much of the American entertainment industry as the shallowest of wading pools, that is increasingly contemptable ... it is not so much a case of "Who cares?" about the lives of folks like Paris, Hilary, Brittany, Lindsay and their ilk ... it's more a case of WHY WOULD YOU CARE????

I have no doubt that they are nice enough people and are some of them are talented in their own rights, but I doubt they are really worthy or deserving of the freakish adulation that is extended to them by the modern entertainment juggernaut.

The latest headline that caught my eye was at CBC.CA and read simply: "Duchovny enters rehab for sex addiction." The story is sparse in details but rich in titillating and suggestive comments about what is ailing Mr Duchovny ... without revisiting the story nor adding to the rabble, I wonder if Mr Duchovny's problem isn't so much an addiction, but rather an inability to deal with reality after living in the hot house that is the celebrity world ...

Let me explain ... on CTV.CA they had the follow up story: " Sexual Addiction Label is Controvertial" which discusses the debate in academic circles about whether sex addicition is an addiction at all ... the bottom line seems to be the dehumanizing and commodification of sex in our modern society ... Perhaps folks like Mr Duchovny, who has been married to one of the "beautiful" fantasy woman that many other men lust after discovered that she was human like everyone else ... she wakes up with morning breath ... she has to trim her toenails ... she has to engage in the ordinary mundne, very un-sexy human behaviour that is involved in life, and as a result the FANTASY that is carefully created in the media withers and dies ... and having been fed a steady diet of a world view that has been entirely fantasy fueled - there is simply and sadly an inability to cope ...

And so he turns to porn and other measures to meet the empty ache that results from the death of the fantasy ... a new fantasy needs to be created - a new dream chased because the reality of having the "Hot Girl" isn't as good as the fantasy ... I wonder if that is part of the reason many celebrity marriages fail? They partners begin to believe the fantasies about each other or worse about themselves and the rocks of reality they WILL strike are simply too much to deal with ...

I would suggest that the problem is not with Mr Duchovny nor with his "addiction" (whether it is an addicition at all not with standing) - the problem is with a society that has commodified EVERYTHING and in the process has sacrificed its own soul ... the allure of the fantasy and the escapism it has offers has taken precedence over the rewards of reality and the beauty that it represents ... what is seemingly needed is a societal wide grounding in the NOW ... facing the present moment and living fully within it as Tolle would say ... not chasing after the fantastic rainbows that our dreams may offer, but rather standing in the rainy grey moments of now and finding pleasure, fulfillment and JOY in the moment ...

I don't doubt that Mr Duchovny has a problem, I just doubt it is an addicition per se ... I would humbly suggest that it is simply an emptiness created by a substanceless industry that is about distracting us from reality ... and that is perhaps the saddest truth in ALL OF THIS ...

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1 comment:

itzktb said...

I doubt David Duchovny buys into the media fantasy of his wife. I mean, if anyone knows that sort of fantasy doesn't exist, it would be a celebrity himself.

All human beings, not just the ones in show business, are sensitive and complicated creatures, all living in a time with its own set of challenges.

I believe we are here to learn lessons, so maybe through his "sex addiction," David Duchovny is learning his.